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Breaking Free: Confronting Resistance through Counselling

Resistance. It’s a word that often carries a negative connotation, bringing to mind obstacles and roadblocks along our path. We all experience resistance in various forms. At times, it can feel overwhelming. We know what we have to do, but there is extreme reluctance holding us back.

Procrastination as a Sign of Inner Resistance

Perhaps you’ve struggled with procrastination? Don’t ignore this initial indication of inner resistance. It’s the whisper in our minds telling us to put off what needs to be done. We find ourselves engaging in activities that distract us from facing the issue head-on, creating conscious or unconscious defences against change.

Hate to break it to you but: resistance doesn’t simply disappear on its own. We can’t evade it forever. Just like the lyrics of the children’s song “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt” say, “We can’t go under it, we can’t go around it, we can’t go over it, we have to go through it.” You must confront this beast directly.

Resistance in Everyday Life 

Resistance can also manifest when it comes to simple (though not fun) tasks like opening and paying bills. Even though the process may be straightforward and within our means, we resist taking that necessary action. We keep pushing it aside, avoiding the reality of our financial responsibilities. The cycle continues until we finally confront the resistance and take the necessary steps to address our financial situation.

Think of a gym membership scenario. Living just across from the gym, you may find yourself consistently avoiding entering. Every time you pass by, promises are made to start tomorrow or next week. The resistance holds you back from prioritising your well-being and embracing a healthier lifestyle. It’s time to acknowledge the source of this resistance, explore the underlying reasons why you resist stepping into the gym, and work through it.

Seeking Counselling: Breaking Down Barriers 

Now, consider a scenario where you’re going through a challenging time, and deep down, you know that seeking counselling could provide the support you need. However, reluctance sets in, creating a barrier that prevents you from taking that important step forward. Excuses arise, appointments are delayed, and self-reliance becomes the shield behind which resistance hides. Sadly, this “shield” is not protecting you. Getting professional help can lead to significant breakthroughs and healing, but only you can make it happen.

Recognising Resistance as the First Step 

Recognising resistance is the first step. It’s about acknowledging that something within us needs attention and healing. It’s understanding that patterns can repeat until we confront them. Once you’ve recognised this avoidant behaviour and decide to address it, counselling can play a transformative role.

With the guidance of a skilled arts counsellor, you can navigate the complex terrain of resistance, unravel its complexities, and emerge stronger, more resilient, and ready to embrace the fullness of your life. Counselling provides a safe and supportive space to explore and work with avoidant behaviours. It’s an opportunity to understand the defence mechanisms we employ and the patterns that keep repeating in different areas of our lives. A counsellor can guide and hold space for you as you delve into the roots of your resistance and recognise how it manifests in your body and mind.

So, if you find yourself procrastinating, whether it’s in seeking counselling, managing your finances, or taking care of your physical well-being, remember that you have the power to confront it. Embrace the opportunity to delve into the layers of resistance, understand its origins, and create a path toward growth and liberation.

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